In her book, Danielle LaPorte states: Knowing how you actually want to feel is the most potent form of clarity that you can have. Generating those feelings is the most creative thing you can do with your life.
The whole gist of it can be found here--I have to tell you, for someone who jumps around from goal to goal with a spinning head, this process made so much more sense to me. I do think we’ve had it backwards…going after certain things because we think it will make us feel a certain way is a bit of a crapshoot. Keeping the desired feeling in the forefront and mapping your life around it is…well..brilliant.
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So…I got up at the butt-crack-of-dawn (known as BCOD around here..I live with an acronymn-happy Air Force brat), pencil in hand and went for it with Danielle’s book and my journal. Very eye-opening stuff came spewing out and after a few hours of work, I think I narrowed my Core Desired Feelings to four. I’ll explore them separately here on the ‘ole bloggity blog this month.
The first one was easily identifiable because I’ve actually claimed my desire for it out loud more times than I can count.
#1 I want to feel joyful.
Gratitude is such a buzz word lately, but I really do hold true to the belief that acknowledging all that you’ve been given brings joy to the front of the line. I’m a bit flakey in writing them down each day, but I am an iPhone slut of sorts, so I decided to get an app and it’s painfully easy.
It has reminder dings to keep you on track, which is great for the easily distracted (raising my hand high over here).
Fortunately, it’s relatively simple for me to categorize an experience in the joy-bringer aisle. Some of these I have consistency with…others need more focus. A few of my favorites:
- Spouse vacay sans kids (hopefully more tandem adventures in store)
-Coffee with friends
-Music on all the time (esp. Hawaiian tunes during rainy months)..best album ever
-Adornment makes a sparkly day out of rainy days… cowboy boots and turquoise
-Paddle boarding in summer
-Teach after-school drama class for my school
-a glass of champagne when I’m cooking every night…just a reminder that life should be celebrated!
-Early mornings to write, read and work out
Joy should fill up the heart several times a day, don’t you think?
Hope your new year is starting out well, Lovelies!