So, I’ve been exploring this Facebook hiatus thing online.
~ My friend Amber had some very valid points in favor of her summer FB break.
~Interesting article here
~Loving this post as well
The main issue for me was the amount of time I seemed to take to “casually and briefly” check FB, which for the most part, turned out to be neither. I also found that when I was checking my email throughout the day (iPhone or laptop), I automatically would throw in a status check. Kinda like looking in the fridge when you already know there’s nothing to eat. It seems this incredibly convenient technology was making it hard for me to just focus on what was important. Oh, I have the usual excuses for continuing my FB thing: I need it for my business/How will I keep up with family?/I like seeing if others are going through the same stuff/Etc.
It’s not enough.
I want to go deeper…and with the people I love most, rather than quick snippets to the many acquaintances we all seem to have now. I do think sometimes (for me, anyway), it’s too easy to fall in a pattern of not calling/writing/emailing family and friends because I assume they know what I’m up to via social networking, or the blog for that matter.
It’s not enough.
I also think it has something to do with my new direction. I’m trying to put the hustle behind me, as in “art is my hustle”. It’s been thirteen years now I’ve been selling myself and what I do…it was always at the front of my head. Yes, it was lovely to meet someone new, but it was also important that they knew what I did. You know…just in case they might want to hire me. At this point it sounds so wonderful to just BE…as in get to know someone or talk with people only for the pure fun and interest of it. At this juncture, just BEING goes well with letting go of all things that remind me of the hustle..if that makes sense.
Then there’s the looking at everyone’s perfect life thing online. Granted, we all know that there is no such thing as a problem-free existence, but it seems that way sometimes when you’re having a dark-cloud-above-me day and admiring the Tahiti vacation of a friend.
When you’re laughing at a meal with friends, are you scrolling through Pinterest? When you’re in labor with your much-prayed-for-deeply-loved child, are you checking to see what’s happening on Instagram? Of course not. We check in with our phones when it seems like nothing fun is happening in our own lives—when we’re getting our oil changed or waiting for the coffee to brew.
It makes sense, then, that anyone else’s fun or beauty or sparkle gets under our skin. It magnifies our own dissatisfaction with that moment. When you’re waiting for your coffee to brew, the majority of your friends probably aren’t doing anything any more special.
But it only takes one friend at the Eiffel Tower to make you feel like a loser.
This made me laugh because it is so true!
I guess I’m just desperate for things to slow down. I’m pretty sure the pace of my days will remain at a clip (that’s just who I am and the family I’m a part of), but I’m aching for a calm heart and complete consciousness of each moment inside it all. Making a deliberate lift of the foot off the accelerator…maybe even a figurative getting out of the car and walking.
I loved this post from a great design blogger who is definitely taking more time to see, listen and be.
In this process I’ve taken a good look at what forms of social media work for me. I’m not a twitter-er and Google+ seems redundant, but I do have to say that I love two things: blogging and Instagram. There’s something about capturing your world in pictures and having an archive to look at “this is your life”. For me, taking a second to capture my world with a phone causes me to slow down and really be present. Plus, I have good friends who I follow and it helps me to see what they’re seeing…I’ve always been heavy on the visual side of things. So, for now, those are the two places you will find me. ‘Still on the fence about whether I should keep my business page on FB and update it once in awhile…I don’t know..can I handle it? We shall see.
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